My son’s death is the biggest I’ve experienced so far. It is paradoxical to give birth to a child. Life will never be the same again.
Now it’s up to my own leadership to choose whether life is getting worse or better from here. Just like when you become a mother, you can choose to focus on everything you lose: freedom, independence, infinite self-life, etc. etc. You like to be awakened at night and be home-helpers for a being, There’s a new blouse that’s glaring on the back, so neither bodystocking nor blouse can ever be used anymore.
Or you can choose to enjoy that now there is one more to love and one who needs what you can be, give, do and learn from you.
Similarly, when a human dies. It’s often shocking when somebody dies, especially if you were not prepared for it and whose person is younger than old. “A long life” is considered almost as a human right. The fact is that death is as natural as life. And when a child dies, we can focus on the loss. Or on what we get.
It turns out to be quite common for parents to die when their children die. Or become insane, alcoholics, drug addicts, anger, bitters, atheists, hateful and depressed. I have spoken to parents in the same situation who said they were considering deleting all contacts with living children from their address book because it was so painful to look at all the core families when one’s own child was gone forever.
I can easily understand how obvious it is to react like that. To avoid this straight path to suffering, you have to use their opportunity to take leadership.
Many ask me, “How can you stand on your legs?” Honestly, at first I also wondered myself. I thought that if my son died, I also died.
I have taught in the discipline “From Offer to Leader” for many years, and I am deeply grateful for now. Leadership is a muscle that I have trained every day and therefore it is now one of my strongest. Like any other parent, I experience chocket and missed. But I do not let the disappointing side of death control my new life. My other children deserve a happy mother and I want to be in Paradise too!
I’m starting to discover what I get. It’s a comprehensive chapter because it’s so big that I can hardly put it on it yet. But it includes, among other things, a new relationship with my son. And it is as full of love as when he went to earth.
My life is different than before, because I now have two children on earth and one in heaven.
But I still love it. And it’s only possible because I’m taking leadership.
It’s always inspiring for me to hear about the leadership of others so if you have any experiences or comments about leadership, life or death we want to read this blog, love to hear them.